What is "Age?"
How old do you
have to be
before you're OLD?
Why do so
fear growing old?
I stayed home today...either a "sick headache" or some type of virus hit me yesterday afternoon while we were at Jennifer and Brian's baby-sitting Emily!! (Yikes!) Worse than being sick was the guilty fear that I might pass along some kind of bug to my 3-month old granddaughter. Not a good feeling.
Anyway, most of the symptoms are gone now and I'm starting to perk up a bit. I MIGHT even go to the office this evening to do some things I'd meant to do today. Also, we're having a music concert at church tonight--presented by the Huntington Beach High School Academy of Performing Arts.
While I was sick, I was feeling really old. (I've always been that way--even when I was in my 20s or 30s: when I got sick, I felt ancient.)
"Old" is such an emotional and subjective word. No matter what decade in life you are experiencing, certain things and situations bring on the "old" sensation. When I started graduate school, I was 25. I remember how ancient I felt being in some classes with college Freshmen. Nowadays, 18- and 25-year-olds seem practically the same age, but back then, there was a HUGE difference.
Because all of us struggle with feeling old from time to time, I thought I'd share this story I received in an email a couple years ago. You may have gotten it too, but it's worth reading again...especially on days when you feel like Methuselah.
The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.
"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.
She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids."
"No, seriously," I said. I was curious as to what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends.
Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium.
As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed, she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order, so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed, she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only two secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. First, you have to laugh and find humor every day. Second, you've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
"If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything, I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change. Have no regrets.
"The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."
She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Rose. She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.
At the year's end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation, Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.